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Remembering

29 Thursday Nov 2018

Posted by Ghada Chehade in Culture, Poetry, Society

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And I heard them whisper, I’ve lost myself…I am like a dreammmm…I can’t remember

One that lingers throughout the day…and weighs heavy on the mind, but whose details are blurred and hazy….

And if I could remember the dream, then I would remember: myself….But perhaps you are not fully awake, I said

Perhaps you are in the world between worlds, where what seems real is actually fake, wherein we live while we are sleeping…and dream while we are awake….

What if life till now…has been but a waking dream–a game of hide and seek. In which we hid ourselves…from ourselves…so well…that we forgot…who we truly are?

And then history simply unfolded, like a collective amnesia….Confused and disoriented, we went looking for ourselves:

In science and technology; sky scrapers and stock markets; mass production and cable TV; cheeseburgers….shopping malls….and whisky….

It was progress with a capital “P”

But lost in the dreammmm…little did we realize…that we were progress-ing…towards no-thing

We had sacrificed the human race…for a…meaningless…endless…rat race….

But you see this rat race has no finish line, no medal, no grand prize….The rat race will never help us remember…it only further…closes…our eyes

For what if this man made civilization, is against…the natural…vibration? What if the path isssss the destination

And we have chosen to waste it…on mindless…accumulation?

What if the question is not just why am I alive, but how do I choose to live? What if the purpose is not to take, but has always been…to give?

To give yourself…and to share your gifts…with allll of life…and allll that exists

 

Can you remember….

 

 

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Natural Mystic ~ A Poem

27 Tuesday Feb 2018

Posted by Ghada Chehade in Culture, Poetry

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It is said we fell from grace, prophets and clerics declare it
But what if our fall was not a fall at all
But rather a departure from the cosmic pace
From a natural rhythm that permeates all space
And the natural laws that govern the human race

 

It is said we are Masters of the earth, science and governments proclaim it
But what if the earth still holds a deeper mystery
And what if science has been the lock and not the key?
What if its answers have kept us farther from the truth?
What if its methods are the veil and not the proof?

 

It is said that humanity is flawed; History and Laws maintain it
But what if the flaw is not with Man but the Law…
What if its justice is not blind for us all?
What if its rules serve the few over the majority?
And what if real justice is not synonymous with authority?

 

And it is said there is much to fear; pundits and media exclaim it
But what if these fears are only chains of a different kind?
What if being free begins with taking back our mind?
What if we could discover more from our intuition and inner might.
And what if the truth is simply hiding in plain sight?

 

 

© 2018

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A Reflection on Womanhood: A Taboo Subject in Taboo Times

08 Friday Apr 2016

Posted by Ghada Chehade in Culture, Philosophy, Society

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With International Women’s Day already a month behind us I’d like to reflect a bit on a currently taboo or off-limit subject: womanhood. It is taboo because, in the current climate of hyper-political correctness, we are not even supposed to acknowledge notions such as womanhood and manhood for fear of excluding or offending someone, somewhere, somehow. One definition of womanhood is the state or condition of being a woman. And one reason the topic may be taboo is that it is currently widely accepted that words like woman/womanhood and man/manhood are social constructs. While they are indeed social constructs, the notions of male and female are biological realities that cannot be escaped. So in order to not offend anyone, though I suspect that parts of this post may still offend some pc people, I will speak about “femalehood.”

For me, and I suspect for many other women, my physical and biological femaleness has largely shaped the state and condition of being a woman. What this means is that my biological sex, and the organs, body parts, hormones and functions that go along with it, have very much affected my state and condition of being a woman. While these are not the only things that have shaped that condition, they have been and remain very instrumental, and at times foundational, to my experience of being a woman. Continue reading →

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Why Do Women Get a Pass? The Double Standard Around “Sexual Harassment”: Leslie Mann & Dakota Johnson

02 Tuesday Feb 2016

Posted by Ghada Chehade in Culture, Current Events, Society

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I don’t often comment on pop culture, especially celebrity culture, but every once in a while something catches my attention that I have to comment on. Last month I read about an Australian cricket player, Chris Gayle, who was fined $10,000 Australian dollars (and almost suspended) for “making inappropriate comments to a female reporter in a live TV interview.” In the interview, Gayle comments on the reporter’s “beautiful eyes” several times and then says he hopes to be able to go on a date with her and calls her “baby.” He was punished for “sexual harassment,”  fined and almost suspended for the incident.

Yet today I saw a video of two Hollywood actresses very relentlessly hitting on a male reporter, without any resultant public uproar, fine or reprisal. While the incident may have been scripted (I do not know one way or another), it depicts two women very aggressively objectifying a male reporter and going way beyond anything Chris Gayle said and did in his fine-worthy gaff last month. The women blatantly tell the reporter that he is handsome then point at him, motioning for some other women to come over and have a look at the “hot man.” At one point they even ask the male reporter to undo the buttons on his shirt in order to show them his “swollen” muscles. And the male reporter obliges them as they ogle and comment on his physique and good looks. Even if it was just a stunt (and I suspect it may be scripted) it is presented as a real exchange between these randy women and the “hot” male reporter. There has been no shaming of these women for objectifying him. Instead mainstream entertainment media is applauding the actresses and telling them to “Work it, Ladies!” Continue reading →

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Reflecting on Burqas…and Butt Cheeks

05 Thursday Nov 2015

Posted by Ghada Chehade in Culture, Current Events, Society

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During the whole Stephen Harper burqa or nikab (face covering worn by some Muslim women) controversy, friends and acquaintances often asked me my opinion on the matter. I assume this is because I write about political and social issues. But it is likely also due to the fact that I am of Middle Eastern origin and was raised by Muslim parents.

While I do have an opinion on the matter I have purposely stayed away from the topic for a few reasons. The main reason is that I am not a proponent of identity politics and am not really able to comment on, or even think about, single issue politics (in this case, “women’s issues”) without a broader look at the political, economic, and geo-political factors involved. Second, as a staunch critic of Empire,  I cannot comment on the issue without eventually commenting on the history of imperialism in the Muslim world, and that may get a bit wordy for some people’s tastes (and for a single article).

Moreover, I would not want my personal opinion on the burqa to be unwittingly used—as some female Muslim commentators’ views have been—to feed or justify some disingenuous imperial pretext of opposing and destabilizing Muslim countries in part to “liberate” oppressed Muslim women. As noted scholar and author Leila Ahmed argued in her work entitled “The Discourse of the Veil,” western imperialists (she was writing about the British Empire in Egypt) do not care about women’s rights anywhere, including in their own countries. They simply use the liberation of veiled Muslim women as part of an excuse to invade, occupy and exploit certain nations. [1]  Continue reading →

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What Educated Women Are Not Allowed to Say in Today’s PC World…

05 Sunday Jul 2015

Posted by Ghada Chehade in Culture, Society

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I’m about to say something that is completely taboo in both the mainstream and so-called progressive culture today, especially among intellectuals… Something so politically incorrect and so forbidden that I suspect that as soon as I type the words, the earth may open up and swallow me whole, hurling me into a PC purgatory more frightening than hell.

Saying these words is tantamount to social and academic suicide, especially among the “new Left.” But try as I might, I cannot hold my tongue. These words have been on the brim of my mind and lips for years, and I have to get them out. Are you ready? Progressive and “enlightened” and politically correct (PC) people of the world, are you sitting down. Here it goes: I…miss…MASCULINE…men!

Okay, wait…breathe. Take a minute… And let me take a minute to make sure I’m still here, and that everything is in one piece. Okay, my limbs are intact, I still have my sight…I’m looking outside my window, and no, the sky didn’t fall. And as far as I can tell, I’m still on this earthly plane. It’s hard to believe that I have not been stricken dead, for I have just used one of the most forbidden words in the English lexicon, according to the PC mafia: “masculine.”

As the postmodern obsession with policing language—borne largely but not solely from the movement in academia (in the Humanities and Social Sciences) towards postmodern paradigms and theories—evolved over the last two decades, the concept of “masculine” became anathema to all those who fancied themselves progressive and liberal (though not necessarily radical, and there is a huge difference). Much of the disdain for the term masculine comes from feminist and queer theory (which are two different schools of thought), where masculine came to be associated with oppressive and dominant traits and aspects in society that were traditionally treated as superior in a hetero-patriarchal system. While these theories made some important observations about power and society, etc., one social and cultural effect was to make it almost forbidden to use the word masculine, even as a descriptive term, unless it was used negatively to denote power, oppression, domination, violence, subjugation, etc.

As such, using the word as a physically descriptive term for men, or, as a (gasp!) favourable and even desirable male quality became practically synonymous with being intellectually backwards and archaic. Well, at least in heterosexual circles. Ironically, while the pejorative notion of the “masculine” partly grew out of queer theory, the male gay community is one of the only spaces where “masculine” or “macho” men are still celebrated and desired (or allowed to be) without shame. In the male gay community a whole spectrum of tastes and desires (from effeminate “twinks” to big hairy, masculine “bears” and “leather daddies”) exists, and the big, strong, hairy, rugged masculine man enjoys a comfortable and superior spot on that spectrum.

But in the heterosexual world one is more or less banned from using such “oppressive” and “essentialist” language and displaying such archaic tastes. While men who are attracted to men are free to desire and celebrate a more “old fashioned” kind of guy, women who are attracted to men do so at the risk of social backlash. Simply put, women are not supposed to desire or prefer classically masculine or rugged men.

Ironically, as straight men have become more “metro-sexual,” both gay men and straight women find it increasingly difficult to “differentiate” between gay and straight men, on the surface. How do I know, because I have had this conversation many, many times with both straight women and gay men (as well as from my own experiences). Now before anyone gets all bent out of sorts and starts hurling accusations of homophobia at me,  chill. Almost all of my male friends are gay and my two closest friends are both gay men. And they have all told me that when checking out guys, it is becoming increasingly difficult for them to tell if the guys are gay or straight.

One reason is outer appearance and overall aura. While straight men are dressing and speaking in a more traditionally (or stereotypically) “gay manner,” many gay men are hitting the gym, showing off their hairy chests and walking around like uber-rugged hunks. This is not homophobia, gender bias or gender essentialism, etc. It’s just an honest  observation (anyone living in a big city knows what I’m talking about and knows it’s true) by a woman (and many of my gay and straight friends) that lives in a big city–where metro-sexual guys and effeminate skinny-jean wearing hipsters are everywhere–and misses the sight of rugged, scruffy “masculine” dudes. True, the bearded hipster lumberjack look has recently taken off, but there’s still sometimes a hint of the metro-sexual afoot in that.

Ok. There. I’ve said it! Is that such a crime?! Are women allowed to have tastes and comment freely and openly about those tastes?! Indeed, popular culture started to address this topic several years ago but it never gained much steam. Back in 2007, a much-less-known Katy Perry came out with a song called “Ur So Gay,” where she satirically laments being in a relationship with a metro-sexual straight guy who comes across “as gay” though he is not. While the song was not intended to be homophobic (it’s been described as satirical social commentary and “Queen of pop” Madonna even once called it her new favourite song), some interpreted it that way and there was some backlash. But the following year Perry came out with the song “I kissed a Girl” and her near brush with pc controversy was all but forgotten.

Anyway, maybe I’m a lone, “educated woman” in a politically correct prison,  err island, but I often miss the sight…and sound…and smell, etc., of old school “masculine” men.

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Contemporary Youth are Non-Threatening (to the Status Quo)

18 Thursday Jun 2015

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packaged rebellionThere’s something a bit off about youth (teens to mid-twenties) today. By that, I don’t mean that they are out of control and a threat to society, quite the contrary. While many youth may seem “wild” and rebellious, contemporary “youthful rebellion” is as pre-packaged, mass produced and apolitical as bologna and juice boxes.

Present day youthful rebelliousness–and coolness–feels artificial, scripted, corporate-mediated and, quite frankly, lame. This is also true of many hipsters, who may consider themselves to be edgy or controversial/defiant, but are usually far from it.  Contemporary hipster youth seem like clueless (i.e., with little knowledge of history or the many authentic and often politically radical counter-cultural movements and sub-cultures their surface-style is based on or emerged from) posers who are all style and no substance. Many come off as uber-sheltered, coddled novices who’s supposedly non-conformist coolness has in fact been packaged and dictated for them by the corporate mainstream media and/or corporate-mediated “alternative” culture. It’s like Disney meets phony punk rock,  and the resultant “edginess” or coolness is both strange and artificial. It’s simulacra on pop culture steroids: an imitation of a lame imitation…of an even lamer imitation…at infinitude.

I am at an age where I am no longer considered youth and can speak from a slightly wider historical perspective. At the same time, I am both old enough and young enough to have a more coherent view of contemporary youth. Unlike someone much older than me, who may think that today’s “wild” youth are “a threat” to society and order, I am young enough to be able to compare today’s youth to that of my own time and earlier and see the glaring reality: today’s youth are “wild and rebellious” in a way that in fact serves the corporate-consumerist culture and political power structure like never before. Unlike previous eras, where youthful or coming of age experimentation and rebellion was much more organic as well as cognizant, critical and defiant of the system of power, today’s so-called rebel youth have actually been created and coddled by the establishment itself. While images of young pop stars engaging in raunchy and hedonistic behaviour is rampant in the media, theirs is a rather staged and orchestrated decadence that reeks of corporate sponsorship (Miley Cyrus, anyone). Most importantly, it is debauchery for the sake of spectacle and corporate profits.

While youth partying or experimenting with sexuality, etc., may be scary for parents, in and of itself, it does very little to challenge the status quo as long as it is devoid of any intellectual or ideological (or heaven forbid, genuinely dissident) analysis or larger agenda. Today’s youth are among the most uninformed and uncritical thinking youth in history (due largely to a lack of critical thinking training in the educational system and the dumbing-down effect of corporate media and corporate culture). They, like many adults in today’s society, have been dumbed-down and historically removed from anything to do with ideology, philosophy or general social and political critique. Many lack the critical faculties to ask deeper questions about the world and society in which they live. Rather than confront power in the historical, ideological sense (as the student and civil rights movements of the 1960s and 1970s were beginning to do before they were co-opted and fragmented by divisive identity politics) today’s youth, even many of those that consider themselves progressive or left wing, do not really understand or address issues of power.

Whether they’re into pop culture, alternative culture or hipster culture, being outrageous is not the same thing as being a threat to power. As “outrageous” as some may be, or pretend to be, much of today’s youth seem more malleable and less threatening (to the status quo) than ever! Image, style and decadence without substance and critical thinking are ultimately lame, non-threatening…and reinforce power.

Please Note: It is not my intention to paint all youth with the same brush. As someone who has taught university in the past, I know very well that there are some deeply critically minded and amazing youth! For this reason, I hold on to hope for a critical awakening among future generations.

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The Consumerism Trap: Filling a spiritual/emotional void with material objects

30 Thursday Apr 2015

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shoppingThe other night I was at a dinner party and the topic of the “American dream” came up. I referred the people at our soirée to a great rant on the topic by the late George Carlin, where he says something like the American dream is a joke and scam and that you have to be asleep to believe it (something like that, anyway). One person said to me, well how do you respond to the reality that people are more financially and materially comfortable than they have ever been and enjoy more freedoms than at any point in history? I will save my comments on how free we may or may not be in the draconian era of “anti-terrorism” laws and NSA-style government surveillance for another post. For now, I’d like to say a few things about consumerism.

In the west, and especially in North America, consumerism has become a way of life. It’s a new religion of sorts and a raison d’ etre all its own. While buying things is not inherently bad (though there is the question of where things come from, how they’re made, what natural resources are depleted, who makes them, under what working conditions, etc), my response to the guest was that while some westerners may be more materially comfortable than at any point in history, we seem to be highly unhappy. One of my earlier posts discusses the increasing use of “mood disorder” drugs in the west. It seems that the more “comfortable” we become as a culture, the more depression, anxiety and general dis-ease we experience. There may or may not be a direct causal link between consumerism and our social mal-content. Having our basic needs met is very important; but hyper-consumption does not seem to make us happier. Given the argument that we’re more materially comfortable than we’ve ever been (of course, there are millions of people for whom this is not true, but I digress), one might expect modern people to be happier.

But consumerism and material objects alone cannot bring lasting happiness, not least because consumerism and advertising are a type of trap or trick that convince us to fill spiritual and emotional voids with material objects. I do not use the word spiritual in a religious sense but rather to describe a sense of connection with other beings and our social and natural worlds as well as the pursuit of deeper truths, etc. Human beings need spiritual and emotional connections and interactions with other people and living things, with nature and our larger world and universe. Connection and interaction—something that is both simple and sublime—is part of our humanity. But in the modern world, people (with all our depths, nuances and complexities) are becoming mere customers and shoppers. While material comforts are necessary to a point, our needs are not just material. Hyper-consumerism and the endless accumulation of stuff for its own sake disorient and disconnect us from our own humanity, and each other.

Consumerism is an endless trap

One “proof” that consumerism tricks us into trying to fill emotional voids and needs with material objects is in the ways material things are advertised. It is well documented that, in trying to sell us things, advertisers appeal to our emotions and desires. And if you don’t think that the advertising companies have dug deep into the human psyche, just look at the billions of dollars they spend on psychological research in order to tap into (and shape) our emotions, desires, etc., and often create what is known as false needs. Advertising uses and exploits our (well-studied) humanity–our fears, desires, emotions, insecurities, need for social validations, vulnerabilities, etc–against us to transform us into customers, clients and audiences. They exploit our humanity in order to get us to consume, buy and watch things that often dumb us down and divert our attention away from other, much more important issues than the mere accumulation of stuff.

Consumerism, corporate culture and advertising are ultimately very clever methods for continuously funneling money from people, because they attempt to fill an emotional or non-material void (i.e., need for love, acceptance, human connection, belonging, relationships, etc) with material things. And since the void is being filled by something that does not truly fit it and cannot satisfy it long-term, it is only a matter of time till we buy something new and try to fill it again, and then again and again and again. Psychologists and happiness experts have shown that new material possessions and purchases only sustain happiness for three months. This may explain why people are quick to go out and by the new version of the latest gadgets and cell phones, though there is little real change or improvement to them, after just a few months. Overall, consumerism it is a bottomless pit and never-ending cycle of trying to fill a non-material void with material things. We end up in an endless loop of wanting, spending/buying/consuming, temporary “happiness”, and then wanting and spending again. The result is a hyper-consuming, distracted population that spends lots of money and asks very few questions. It’s great for business (and political elites) but not so great for our hitherto unaddressed emotional and spiritual needs.

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A Female Analysis of the Hollywood Film Gone Girl

13 Friday Feb 2015

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gone-girl-white-titleNote: If you haven’t watched this film and wish to then you should stop reading now, as I will discuss the plot and ending of the film!

A couple of months ago I watched the movie Gone Girl and had an intense reaction to it. I wanted to write about it back then but other things came up and I also don’t typically write about pop culture.  But since watching the film I’ve heard or read analyses of it that have “forced” me to say my piece. I knew nothing about this movie—other than the fact that I was reluctant to watch it—before watching it. I watched it with a heterosexual male friend and when it was over we both had the same reaction: “wow, whoever made this film must not like women!” For surely only a hater of women could depict them in such a light! When we searched the film and discovered that it was based on a book written by a woman–Gillian Flynn–I was a bit confused. I had naively assumed the book was written by a misogynistic man.

And when I read the online reactions and reviews of the film I was doubly confused. While some felt the film was misogynistic or anti-women, many hailed it as a feminist celebration of “strong empowered women.” Seriously?! For those who haven’t watched the film, it basically revolves around the popular and tired clichés/stereotypes that men are cheating pigs and women are crazy psychos, taken to brutal and bloody extremes. Given the sociopathic and brutally violent revenge the female character embarks on for her husband’s cheating—the worst of it aimed at another, innocent man who was merely trying to help her—I assumed that women would find the film highly offensive (for its portrayal of women as scheming psycho killers.) When I saw reviews hailing the film as a feminist piece that depicts women as strong and empowerment, I was surprised.

Is this what western feminism has become!? It goes without saying that the male character—the emasculated and failed husband played by actor Ben Affleck—was totally wrong to cheat on his wife (as a woman would be for cheating on her husband) but the female character’s reaction was extreme, to say the least. While she starts out with a clever (yet disproportionate) plot for revenge, by the time she slits poor Desi Collings’ throat—her rich and overly obliging college sweetheart whom she exploits and then kills in cold-blood—she has gone from clever schemer to cold blooded killer. And that is what made me think it was an anti-woman film. For me (and my male friend) the message was that women can be sneaky. They pretend to be one thing (in this case, the cool and fun wife that is not fazed, does not “nag” and is sexually adventurous) while underneath they may be mentally unstable and will ruin your life and go on a killing spree if you hurt or betray them. To me, this is a highly negative portrayal of women. So I was surprised and confused to see this film hailed as feminist.

While I get that some may find her plan for revenge clever or “empowered,” it is nonetheless a huge over-reaction. Yes, cheating is bad and wrong, but framing her husband for her murder is a bit excessive don’t ya think?! And the fact that she murders a man in cold blood (and practically bathes in his blood) and then blackmails her husband into getting back together with her and having a child together (for fear that he will suffer the same fate) makes this female character both clinically insane and extremely pathetic. A man does not want to be with her, so she forces him to stay with her by threatening his life? And let us not forget the second ex-boyfriend whom she falsely accused of rape when he ended their relationship. Are these the actions of “an empowered woman”? This is the epitome of non-empowered, weak and criminally insane. Such a depiction of women is cringe-worthy. And the fact that this type of female character could be seen as a positive or empowered depiction of women may speak to how confused we have become as a society.

Or maybe it’s just me…

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